Nov 30 2008
This is my very first time…..
This is my first time. So I guess that make me a virgin at this.
. So please bear with me. I started this blog as a way to vent and just get somethings off of my chest. Also just to get some other views on life from people who may have gone through the same things. Just to tell you a little about myself. I am 27 years old with three boys. I am recently divorce and currently raising my three boys alone. Here is my issue for today. I have been dating a guy for about two years and I have know him for over ten years. Although I am not sure what he wants out of the relationship and we are taking it one day at a time, I do not know how he should act or what he should do when if come to the kids. The kids do know who their father is and they talk to him on the phone from time to time but I do not want any one to be in an uncomfortable situation. My current boyfriend helps me out with the kids more than their real father but he does not enforce any rule or try to tell them what to do. On top of it all he has no kids of his own. Maybe I am reading to deep in to this and there is nothing to worry about. I just want everyone to be happy. I never expected to be in this place. Any comment please let me know.
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Here is what I think you should do…TALK to your children and ask them how THEY feel about your boyfriend. I have three children with my husband and I have also been raising his two from his former marriage for 13 years and the best advice anyone can give you, is to try not to guess how they feel about his interraction with them and ask them what they think and feel about it. Divorce is a terrible and hard thing on everyone. The kids will be okay, if you are okay. Being that you stated your BF doesn’t discipline or interfere with the kids when it comes to discipline, I don’t see what the problem would be at the moment unless it is you, yourself who is questioning his role. Do you want him to take a more active role as provider and disciplinarian? It has been my experience when boys have to answer to men, especially a man who is NOT thier father, no matter how active his role may or may not be…that’ s when tension arises. My suggestion, talk to your kids, try not to have an initial reaction if they state something you disagree with because that may deter them from being open with you in the future, think before you speak and if your BF can do anything right now, it’s to teach your kids to respect and love you as he does and just enforce your role as a caring, loving parent.
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Welcome to today.com! I’ve been blogging since the beginning of November. As for your question on advice, you’re not going to be able to make everyone happy. As far as I know, divorces are all about uncomfortable situations. My advice? It’s good that the kids still talk to their father. I think it’s important that your kids know that your boyfriend is not trying to take their father’s place but they should still respect him.
Wow, that is such a great first post… I think my first post said my name and I tossed up a cartoons…
Welcome, I’m Chato, my blog is about mental health humor. And feel free to check out any of my cartoons and use them on your blog if they fit any of your subjects.
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welcome aboard, and you will find tons of help with the blog on the forum so feel free to sign on… you should have a link on your accounts page… Your P.W, is the same as the blogs.